Asking Out Crushes 101

By Hannah Zulueta, Writer | February 14, 2025

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Asking out crushes might seem hard because of all of the emotions and nerves that seem to flop all over the place, especially during the loved-filled month of February. Usually, when feelings of nervousness and the fear of getting rejected combine, emotions can feel explosive, rendering most unable to know what to say or how to say it.

But, building up your confidence can help out with these complicated feelings. Once you have confidence and know what to say, asking out your crush can be easy.

The first tip: get to know the person by asking questions about some of their favorite things.

Carson High School senior Brian Navora said, “Some good conversation starters could be [had at the] movies [or] talk about your favorite [shows]," said Carson High School senior Brian Navora, "...or sports [especially if they] played a sport.”

Getting to know the person is a huge step when it comes to leaping towards one step closer to knowing your crush. After all, building a connection with them can help them to say yes.

Still, overcoming the all-to-common nerves is an obstacle that many struggle with.

CHS sophomore Rhaine Bautista said, “I felt a little nervous cause it was my first time talking to him.”

Talking to him or her for the first time can be nerve racking, but the more time that passes by, the better it will get.

A good tip from CHS teacher Mr. Washington is to remember to listen.

“So, as a male, I never talked about myself. I always talk about the female, so it makes the conversation go much more easily," said Mr. Washington.

A second tip to master: be confident.

CHS senior Itzel Ortizmata said, “I saw the moment and I was like, oh, well, you only live once so you might as well."

Being confident is an attractive trait to most. Having the confidence to talk to someone and having a conversation can help you to get closer, even if you don't know each other well. Try a simple, “Hi, do you want to hang out at lunch today?”

It is all about having good conversation starters and being confident.

“I built up my confidence by just telling myself that it's all a part of life and [that] no matter the answer [it's fine]”  said CHS senior Brian Navora.

The last tip: be ready for what the other person might say. If you do get rejected, a good line to say is,  “It's okay!” which shows how mature you can be.

Asking out your crush might seem like a stressful situation, but with these tips, your experience might be more pleasant than you think.